Happy Friday!
I’m keeping today’s note short because sometimes the most useful tools are the simplest ones.
There are three words I come back to again and again in my work:
Feel. Pause. Choose.
Feel.
Let yourself notice what you’re feeling without immediately trying to make it disappear.
Pause.
Give yourself a little space to understand what’s happening.
And a pause doesn’t always mean “calm down.” Sometimes it’s simply a moment to notice, Okay, I’m really angry right now. What’s going on?
Choose.
Decide what you want to do next.
There isn’t always one “right” choice.
Maybe you need to speak up. Take some space. Ask for help. Rest. Try again. Set a boundary. Let yourself cry. Do something that helps your body settle.
The feeling gives us information.
What we do with that information is where choice comes in.
So if you or someone you care about has a BIG feeling this weekend, you don’t have to immediately fix it.
Try starting here:
Take care,
Missy ✨
Dr. Missy Kleinz, PhD, LPC
Creator of BIG Feelings + Brightlight Orchard